INTRODUCTION: A friend of mine told me their neighbor kid who she plays with ran to her one day to tell her how their security man would touch her breast and private part, she then asked if her parents were aware, the little girl said NO; thus, this prompted this post. Another incidence happened some time ago, a lady committed suicide due to her parents refusal to marry the man she has been dating for years due to their differences in tribe and she was already 3 month pregnant.
A lot has been happening, one which am not proud of. Kids are getting molested by the day and some of these parents are usually the last person to know about the calamities their kids go through.
You are amazing but please stop making the lives of your children miserable. Your over strictness is what makes your child get raped and you don’t know, they do abortion and you don’t know, they go through violence with their partners and you don’t know, they go through depression, get bullied, contemplate suicide which in some cases you might be the course and you don’t know…All you know is strictness and preach Gods words forgetting God asked you to take care of your children.
Your children are supposed to see you as their first confider, best friend and role model.
Dear beloved parents, Stop refusing your children to marry the man or woman of their choice because they are not of your religion, race, tribe or because they don’t look in certain ways that suit you as if falling in love or marriage is easy.
Your children are not perfect too and they might get rejected by the type of man or woman you wish is perfect for them unless it’s your joy to see them sad and for them to remain single then when years passes you’d start running from one prayer house to the other praying for partners for them.
You think you know your children to decide who is perfect for them to spend the rest of their lives with? No you don’t.
Humans have different side to everything. The way your child act towards you is totally different from the way they act towards the society, friends, colleagues and their partners. You can only advice, pray for them and wish them well.
Over strictness and paying deaf ears to their sensitive needs are some of the reasons why young people are depressed, sad, wayward and arrogant and some even contemplate suicide.
I have learnt that most parents are particular about how the outside world perceive them rather than how their family feels about them or their relationship with their children thus parents try to please the outsider by trying to live to their standards rather than focusing on their family goals. parents need to pay more attention to their child’s growth, wellness and well being, provide, cater and protect for their children rather than focusing on unimportant things that can sort itself out.
Your children peace of mind and happiness should come first before putting into consideration what the society, religion, family members, colleagues and co thinks about your family because when something drastic happens to your children or your relationship with them, this people that you put first before your family would be the first to mock you. They will only tell you sorry and that’s it.
My prayers is for God to keep blessing our parents with wisdom and long life, and yes, we Love them dearly. Kindly drop some of the things parents do that you wish they could have done better or different.
Me, on behalf of everyone.